Tea & Crumpets #3 — Love Is Maintenance.

So much of what we read about love describes the sparks, the aching and the heart-racing, breathless highs and lows, running-through-the-airport-at-Chirstmas kind of love.

But that's not the whole story. And it's not the reality of good, long-term relationships.

Recently, me and my wife Mim marked another anniversary, we’ve been together 13 years. Married for 8. Everyone who knows me knows just how much of a mess I’d be if I hadn’t met Mim. (Like, I’m still a mess, just less of a mess.)

These 13 years have been a blur of perpetual forgiveness. Tenderness. Love. Heartbreak. Grief. Wonder. Silliness. Happy tears over lush food. 10 house moves. Holding each other up. Cheering each other on. Standing side by side through seasons I couldn’t have survived alone. Hand in hand.

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